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Self Acceptance

In Coming Out, Self Acceptance on November 7, 2012 at 1:45 pm

It’s healthy for us to accept ourselves as we are. This is true of a person no matter what their sexuality or identity: gay, straight, bisexual, homosexual, heterosexual, transgender, transsexual, queer or whatever you feel you are.

Self Acceptance V Denial and Hiding

Self acceptance may be a challenge for many people in many varying parts of their life. For example the person who relies on alcohol to such an extent that they can’t face a day without it may be in denial about being an alcoholic. They have not accepted this part of themselves and until they do, they will never seek to change that part them. Whilst some aspects such as sexual identity are not changeable, what is changeable is how we view ourselves and our identity.

Many gay, lesbian and bisexual people go through a period of denial and not wanting to admit to themselves that they are attracted to the same sex. No matter how hard they try it doesn’t change anything. Denial unfortunately does not change anything and can make matters worse. Unhappiness, shame, guilt, depression, self-harming, self-loathing and even suicide can be the result of prolonged denial.

Happiness and Self Acceptance

The path to happiness is self-acceptance. Now of course this can be easy to say and not so easy to accomplish for everyone. there will always be examples of the ideal scenario. The time a friend came out to friends and family and got a wonderful response. Life is not always like this. In the past coming out may have led to rejection by those you love and abuse and bullying. In fact for a while self-acceptance and coming out can seem like the worst decision for anyone that gets a negative reaction.

Yet only through being your true self can you experience the relief of no longing having to hide an important part of you from others. For the first time you don’t have to think twice or be guarded about how you act or what you say about your relationships. Through being your true self you can feel more confident about handling those around you who may try and criticise you or call you names or use other forms of abuse.

Coming Out to Yourself

More than anything else, happiness begins by coming out to yourself. By accepting yourself as gay, lesbian or bisexual you are taking the first steps towards that life of contentment and happiness. As you know life is never a smooth journey, and that’s part of the reality of life but feeling like you can be the authentic you that you always wanted to be can give you the courage to manage whatever comes your way and to enjoy the pleasant surprises too.

Experienced Help and Support

If you need any help with acceptance, coming out or stress and anxiety around this area, I would delighted to help you. Having been through this myself, I have experience of what you are going through.


On Being Gay

In Gay Issues on November 6, 2012 at 4:18 pm

Just because many equality laws have been passed that give same-sex relationships and individuals better rights against discrimination, it doesn’t mean the world…. your world has accepted that you are gay, lebian or bisexual. Discrimination, bullying and abuse can be covert as well as overt.

Also there may be events from the past when you felt rejected because of your sexuality. You may have grown up in a place or social environment that suppressed your sense of yourself. One of the major causes of low self esteem is the shame others can influence us with and through having to hide an important aspect of ourselves… our sexual identity.

Typically a gay man, lesbian or bisexual may have these life challenges that affect them today:-

  • Self Acceptance
  • Coming out
  • Being open with family, friends, colleagues
  • Sexual confusion

You may fear or already have experienced:-

  • Rejection by colleagues, friends and family
  • Verbal and/or Physical abuse
  • Discrimination
  • Bullying
  • Prejudice
  • Isolation

No matter what your sexuality is, anyone can experience difficulties. Your sexuality may make these more likely to have been exprienced or currently still a challenge in your life:-

  • Low self-worth
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Depression and Sadness
  • Loneliness
  • Hurt and Anger
  • Stress and Anxiety
  • Addiction to substances, pornography or other forms of escape

Gay therapy can help you feel more in control and accepted. You can talk freely about what has happened and your fears and anxieties without being judged. Hypnosis can help you release your stress and feel calmer and more relaxed. Then in feeling more confident about yourself can lead to a fulfilling life of pride and achievement.

Gay Therapy Derby Derbyshire Nottingham Nottinghamshire

In Gay Issues on November 6, 2012 at 9:58 am

Gay Therapist Derby Debyshire

I am a gay hypnotherapist near Derby and Nottingham offering gay therapy in the form of Hypnotherapy, EMSRP, NLP and EFT to anyone who wants to change their life. Whoever we are, and whatever our gender or sexuality, we can all sometimes go through troubling and challenging times. The most popular issues I help anyone with are stress, low confidence, low self esteem, fears, anxieties and phobias, relationships, shame, depression, sexuality and many more life issues.

Whether you are heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or transgender (LGBTQ+) it can help your confidence in seeking gay therapy to meet and discuss what you want to change with a gay therapist.

For most people, seeking the help of a stranger can be daunting enough. If you then feel you have to hide or be discerning about your life and the relationships you enjoy because you think the therapist will judge you, it can impede what you want to achieve in therapy.

Gay Therapist DerbySteven Harold is a gay man and has helped many gay men, lesbian women, bisexual men and women at his London therapy practice. He has now relocated to Derbyshire and is convenient for Derby and Nottingham. As an experienced and professional therapist you can be assured of privacy and confidentiality in any session with Steven.

Gay Therapy

No matter what our sexuality is, we can all suffer from life situtaions that test our resolve and make us question whether we can change. If you have struggled with low confidence, anxiety, stress, anger and frustration therapy can help you with these. For some gay men or lesbian women a sense of shame or low self esteem can hamper a successful career and get in the way of enjoying a relationship. Bullying may have been a factor in the past that still affects you today or you may fear being abused at home, work or elsewhere.

Free Gay Hypnosis ConsultationFree Initial Consultation in Heanor Derbyshire

Whatever you current need, you can take advantage of the no-obligation free initial consultation to discuss your goals for therapy and meet Steven to find out more about the therapy he provides. You can phone him for an informal chat in confidence on 01773 436796 or email him at info@hypnosisderbyshire.com


Gay Therapy Skype Sessions

If you are unable to make it to the Derbyshire practice there is a possibility of you having supportive and affirmative Gay therapy with Steven over Skype. Use the email address to contact him above.